Family finds healing after losing a twin in stillbirth

- In Debbie Wright's Alpharetta living room, is an emotional show-and-tell.

"I also brought this (a toy) to the hospital, so this is one of the things that kind of cuddled up with him," says Wright.

Women who've lost babies to stillbirth -- take turns, sharing their physical reminders, their babies were here, and they were real.

"I was pregnant with twin boys. Had a very, well, it was my first pregnancy," recalls Wright.

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It was 2005; Debbie says she and her husband Phil felt doubly-blessed.

"We were all just grateful and looking forward to it," says Phil Wright.

But at 36 weeks, something felt off.

"I thought I was in labor. And we went down to the hospital, and they could not find Grant's heartbeat," recalls Mrs. Wright. "So, it wasn't until the next morning and they sent us down for an ultrasound and just complete and utter shock."

Phillip says couldn't believe it either.

"When we finally found out, I lost it. I just completely lost it."

Debbie admits she didn't even know what you called what she had just experienced-- a stillbirth.

"It was probably one of the hardest things I've ever gone through."

They had an hour to say goodbye -- a hospital staffer took this photo. They left the hospital -- with a baby, and a death certificate -- and a lot of complicated feelings.

"Having my son Tanner was the greatest blessing ever. And you know I'm trying to celebrate him while I'm mourning Grant," says Wright.

In up to half of stillbirths, there's no explanation -- for why. Philip says he still doesn't understand losing Grant, but his faith has helped him make peace with it.  And the experience -- made their marriage stronger.

"You can either go one way, or you can become closer together. And I think we've become closer together," adds Mr. Wright.

A year after they lost Grant, Debbie found SHARE Atlanta, a grief support program for women dealing with pregnancy loss.

"For me to be able to share our story, that's the best part of it. Just to keep his memory alive. To be able to talk about him."

Tanner Wright will turn 11 later this month, but his parents chose not to reveal what happened to Grant until her turned 7 years old.

"I just thank God for him every day," says mom." Whenever I look at him, I think, 'What would Grant look like. "Or, what would it be like having two?"

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